Making Room for Opportunity in 2010

December 16, 2009

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I am a great believer in being authentic. That is, aligning every aspect of my life and business with my values. When you live and work authentically it brings true satisfaction. Even if it hasn’t particularly been a great financial quarter, if there were storms in your relationships or you experience career disappointments, if you have followed your values there is nothing to regret. You know you did your best and so you can simply make a learning experience of your mishaps. But when you repeatedly dishonour your values, even material success will not make you happy. There will always be an inner, empty space, rather than true satisfaction.  

What I would recommend is to first decide on your top ten values, that you would like to honour in 2010. (If you need some help with this, please click here to see the feature article and Coaching Corner in Issue 1 of my newsletter).

Knowing your values can help to determine a direction for next year. For instance, “Next year I’d like to direct my life and business around integrity, family etc, etc, etc” (Notice the action words, determine and direct? These actions give you the power of proactivity. Your year is yours to determine and direct, rather than passively allowing it to drift by). Next, prune these 10 values down to the five that mean the most to you, and then your top three.  This pruning is to give sharper focus to your planning. Instead of a direction, we now have a focus and can more effectively zero in.

 Now, take out  2 sheets of paper and a pen as we are going to do a mind map for our year 2010!

Mind mapping exercise: 

 1.       In the middle of one of your sheets of paper (turn to landscape view) write “My Life”. Let’s call this page 1.

 2.       Next, on the second sheet (page 2) list the top 3 values you’ve chosen to honour (i.e. what matters most to you) in 2010.

 3.       Next, think of all the aspects/compartments/areas of your life (not life as people say it should be!). See the list below as a guide:

 a.       Family

b.      Work (your job, business or volunteering activity, or all three!)

c.       Health

d.      Rest and recreation

e.      Marriage/relationship

f.        Finances

g.       Spiritual

h.      Charity/contribution

 Of course you could add or delete categories, as this suits you. List these below your values, on page 2.

 4.  Now, back to page 1.

We are going to have My Life (as the focus of our mind map) in the middle and our different life areas arranged radially around the page. I prefer to put mine in thought bubbles. I recommend you do the same! Write one life area inside each bubble. See diagram 1 below.
Diagram 1
5.  Next, take each bubble, or part of your life and think on what is currently working for you and what isn’t. What’s honouring your values and what’s violating them? In other words, what you would like to do more of, and what you would like to get rid of. Write this inside the bubble. Also write beneath each bubble what this area would look like if your life were perfect. Label this: Target. State your target positively as though were already a reality. Complete this activity for all bubbles. See diagram 2 below.
Diagram 2
6.     Below or at the middle of your diagram, in a different colour ink, list your values for 2010 so that each time you view it, you have them in mind.

7.      What you have now drawn is an overview of what you want and don’t want in each part of your life (inside the bubbles) and where you are driving it to, or your destination (beneath each bubble) in 2010! This is still only a basic map as you have the start and finish lines, but not the journey in between. However it does provide some clarity and focus now that you have it drawn out. And of course, you can amend your mind map as you travel through 2010!

If you take action on what’s inside the circles, you can achieve what’s written beneath them, whilst being authentic (honouring your values). And as a bonus activity, I’ll add this: Take each area of your life and determine, on a scale of 0-10 (0 = totally unhappy with it and 10 = terrific, couldn’t be better!) how satisfied you are with it. Write your score in a different colour ink beside each bubble. Note the areas with the 3 lowest scores as those that need the most urgent attention. And if you’re a subscriber to CLR Inspire, continue reading to access your Subscriber Holiday Gift.


To thank you for subscribing to my newsletter, CLR Inspire, I’d like to offer you a Holiday Gift that could greatly impact your new year, from start to finish. Please read along and take quick action as this offer closes at midnight on January 7th 2010. I’ll tell you why at the end.

After completing your mind map and the bonus activity above, email me your 3 areas for most urgent action, together with what they would look like at a perfect score of 10 (i.e. your positively-stated target. Or you could choose any 3 areas you would most like to improve.  On receiving your email I will contact you to set up a no-cost consultation. At this consultation we will work on setting 3 clear intentions for your year 2010 and also look at any internal hindrances that could be standing in your way of achieving them.
The value of this gift is $USD 100 but it is yours at no cost in appreciation of your support and patronage.

The benefits of this exercise  to you include:

 (1) Sifting through your many intentions for the New Year and sorting out 3 to focus on. Eliminate confusion and concentrate your efforts. Turn wishes and New Year resolutions into goals with action plans.

(2) Sharper focus improves the chances of success.  Decide exactly what you want so you can recognize distractions. Once you recognize your distractions you have a better chance of eliminating them.

 (3) Identify your possible hindrances to success. These are often in our minds and in our environments. No matter how hard we strive forward, if we have internal and environmental hindrances (and we almost always have), these will act like thermostats to pull us back to our starting points every time.

(4) A clear action plan to bring your 3 focus areas to as close to a score of 10 as you are ready to achieve. Yes, it’s no more up to chance; it’s now up to you!

Of course, we don’t have to get to work right away! You go ahead and enjoy the holidays and we can get together in the New Year. However, you are required to take action immediately, in order to book your consultation.

So what’s the next action to take? Simply complete your mind map and bonus activity, email me your 3 most urgent action areas and then watch your inbox. And if you’re not yet a subscriber simply click here to leave your name and details and just type in: Subscribe to CLR Inspire. This will not only qualify you to receive this offer, but others as well, throughout 2010. And of course, you get my inspirational newsletter!

NOTE: This free offer closes at midnight on January 7th 2010.

Why am I closing this offer then? Because one of my intentions for 2010 is to only work with people who demonstrate a strong commitment to achieving their goals. I know we are all busy at this time of year, but those who are serious about their own progress are always ready to prepare room for it. They are the ones who will respond by the deadline and I have prepared room in my busy holiday schedule just for them. I hope you are one such person and I look forward to “meeting” you soon!


The Subscriber Holiday Gift Offer is now closed.

It was a pleasure meeting with those of you who took the exercise or contacted me about it.




Swimming Alone

December 6, 2009

There’s one vital skill that you must learn if you want to succeed in life. I call it “Swimming Alone.” Company is good, indeed there is strength in numbers. But when it comes to following your dreams, there will always come a time, even if brief, when you will have to swim alone. You know it’s time to swim alone when:

  1.   (a)  All the other ducks in the pond just want to say, “Quack!”

Your dreams and aspirations are too “lofty” for your friends and family. They think you are crazy because you aspire to a life beyond “quacking.” Their well-meant warnings could prove a snare. Perhaps it’s time to swim alone, even if only to think.

   (b) Suddenly, just paddling around and scooping up food doesn’t seem like success to you.

You want more out of life. You’ve out-grown the pond. If you are going to get anywhere further you may just have to forge your way ahead. Perhaps alone. Because no one else is interested.

 (c)  Swimming in a group is proving a hindrance

Teamwork can be powerful. Sometimes synergy is just what you need. But when your team no longer gives you synergy but rather decimates the effort, it’s surely the time to break out. When old alliances no longer align with your mission, give going solo a thought, even if only for a while.

Are you at a point in your life or career where you are considering swimming alone? Do you feel this is the right step, but are afraid to take it? The support of a coach could be just what you need.

As a coach I am happy to help my clients explore their options and decide what they really want. Sometimes this is different from what they started off with.  And when they decide to take the route of solo-preneur I could be the extra eyes,  ears and shoulders they need in the absence of a large team. Following are some of the ways I’d be happy to support you on your journey into self-employment:

1.  As a sounding board for your ideas. Bounce them off me and I’ll help you find the path that’s right for you.

2.  Helping you overcome internal blocks to success. Are you afraid you won’t make it? Constantly putting yourself down? Hindered by procrastination or analysis-paralysis? Terrified of the competition? I have a range of tools and techniques to help you handle these situations. Why not avail yourself of the help you need, today?

3.  Accountability. With no boss breathing down your neck to get things done, it could be easy to slacken the pace. With me in your corner you’ll have someone to hold you accountable and help you keep your commitment to your goals.

4.  Support in learning new skills. Such as making presentations, handling difficult clients,  assertiveness and more.

If you’ve been meaning to take the plunge into self-employment but feel afraid and overwhelmed, or  if you feel the urge to go solo in some other area of your life,  I am here to support you. Why not get in touch today to see how this could work for you?  You have nothing to lose but a dream to gain!

How Many Times Do You Get Paid?

November 17, 2009

The following article is an excerpt from my newsletter, CLR Inspire ( If you’re an entrepreneur you may find a few tips to take away!


Many years ago I read Robert G. Allen’s book, Multiple Streams of Income – How to generate a lifetime of Unlimited Wealth. The lessons I learned from this have remained with me since. There is one in particular that I would love to share with you here, and that is to make sure you get paid many times over for your efforts. It’s called creating residual income.

Agreed, this is a coaching and personal development newsletter. And I am neither a business coach nor a financial advisor. However, my work as a coach is about helping you grow towards what you want. And sometimes this could involve a little re-education, empowering you to make a much needed paradigm shift. So today please permit me to digress from the usual. With that said, may I ask you , how many times do you get paid for every hour you work?

If you answered, “Once,” Robert Allen says your income is linear. You get paid for your time, and when you’re absent you earn nothing. This is a rather risky position to be in as there are a limited number of hours in a day; you can only work a set number of these. And since you must show up to get paid, you become a slave to time (sorry if this hurts). You don’t call the shots, the money does.

A better alternative to linear income is residual income. In this case, you get paid over and over for the same effort. You put in the hard work once and generate a steady flow of recurring payments.  Creating residual income requires patience and perseverance. At first you may earn nothing while you gradually build up this new income stream. A case of paying now and playing later. But when the money does start to trickle in, it keeps on coming, whether you show up or not. Now isn’t that freedom!

Examples of linear income are:

  • A salary,
  • Hourly rates for sessions with clients, and  
  • One-off payments for individual sales.

You must keep working to keep on earning. No work, no pay.

Examples of residual income are:

  • Royalty payments on a book or a song,
  • Re-packaging a live workshop as audio-programmes or workbooks, to sell over and over,  
  • Bonuses from the sales of multi-level marketing teams,  
  • Licensing others to use your recipes or formulas,
  • Franchising your business.

You do the hard work once and keep on re-selling. Or involve others to re-sell for you, earning royalties. Work once, get paid over and over.

Robert Allen tells of an inventor who built up residual income. He created the battery tester on the Duracell battery. Duracell pays a few pennies per battery pack, and over the years this has added up in the millions.

Which appeals more to you ? Slavery to money as you eke out a living from linear income, or time-freedom and financial independence as your efforts pay off again and again, whether you show up or not? If residual income appeals to you, why not brainstorm new ways to create it in your business today? And be free to do the things you’ve always wanted. Every woman’s dream and a great possibility.

Copyright (c) 2009 Oma Edoja


Coaching Corner: What’s holding you back from residual income?

November 17, 2009

The following article is an excerpt from my newsletter, CLR Inspire ( If you’re an entrepreneur you may find a few tips to take away!


You know about residual income and indeed would like some in your business. So why aren’t you creating any?

Common reasons (excuses?):

  • It can’t be done in my business.
  • I don’t know how. What would I do?
  • I’ll do it later. I’m too busy now.
  • It’s not in my business plan.
  • It would take money, which I don’t presently have.

Now, let’s just imagine that

  • it could be done,
  • you knew how,
  • you weren’t too busy,
  • it could be put into your business plan,
  • you had access to the money you needed,

Really relish the possibilities. Dwell on what you could achieve now that all is possible.

What would you do next to create residual income in your business? And what next? Could you write out a plan?

Now determine not to think impossibility, but that anything is possible if you can just believe. When we are open to possibility our sub-conscious minds draw us to the solutions we seek. In issue 6 , I mentioned the Reticular Activating System (RAS), a part of our brains. The RAS sorts through the many stimuli we are exposed to and brings to our notice the information we need. Think possibility and empower your RAS to find your solutions. Think impossibility and your RAS will find reasons why it can’t be done. (See the feature article in issue 6 for how to make your RAS work for or against you)

There is always some way that you could repackage what you presently offer, or find new ways to meet clients’ needs, that could generate residual income. Find out what others in your industry are doing, all around the world. Set up Google alerts for your key words, or do a web search. If you can think of any, why not hit reply and share them with us here? You just might be helping someone who needs it. Tell us what you do and how you could create residual income in your business. And if you would like coaching feedback from me, I am happy to give you a complimentary email session. So get typing right away!

Update 19th Oct ’09: The Get Fit Challenge

October 19, 2009


Hi there! I’m still waiting to hear from you regarding your fitness goals. There’s a whole lot of inspiration to be gained from a support group. So why not get in on it and grab some for yourself? It’s free! Often times, working alone can be discouraging. On the other hand, success rates are known to improve when we keep company with likeminded people. So let me sound out the invitation once again:

Join the Get Fit Challenge!

Decide on some steps you can take to improve your fitness level between now and December 31st this year. Set 2 or 3 goals from these and send them to me via email. When you do this you automatically join my Get Fit support group.

Benefits include:

(1)    Accountability (helping you keep your word to yourself),

(2)    Inspiration from other members,

(3)    Success tips via email,

(4)    One free email coaching session on your goals,

And more coming up!

How to join: Email me your goals. Find contact details here.

Hope to hear from you soon!


My journey so far!

In my last post I listed my 3 new and 2 old fitness goals.

(See my goals here: )

I did quite well actually (she would say that, wouldn’t she!). Got my 30 minute walks daily, sometimes exceeding 30 minutes, halved my portion size, at least most of the time (“wink!” ) and had no sweets and chocolates. However, I didn’t do any indoor aerobics (groan!) and occasionally binged with the biscuits! Phew, confession done!

What did I learn?

(a) Reporting back to you kept me accountable. Even though I didn’t do well with some of my goals, the ones I did keep were partly due to this accountability. I couldn’t come back and tell you I failed all through, could I?!

(b)   To stay focused on my commitment, not my goal. To this end I’ll be doing things to raise my commitment in the next 2 weeks. Such as posting notes around the house reminding me to stay committed, also with inspiring quotes; scheduling my fitness activities on my calendar (they stayed in my head, where they got forgotten!), asking a friend to be my fitness buddy.

(c)    It’s not over just because you had a bad week, or two. You can start again, go back to the drawing board to re-plan your strategy, as I’ve done, find out what does work since you now know what doesn’t, and simply renew your commitment.

(d)   Writing greatly improves the success rate. I’ve taken the first step by posting my goals here. The next step I’ll take is to keep a fitness journal where I’ll log my daily goals, plans, successes and failures. I think I’ll also write down any inspirational quotes I can find. A journal can help you stay focused, keep your goals top of mind, encourage you on not-so-good days when you review your progress and help you keep track of what works for you and what doesn’t.

(e)   Playing the Lone Ranger won’t work for me here! In some areas of my life, lone ranger-ing works just fine, but certainly not when I’m trying to get back onto an exercise routine. So for now, all my aerobics will be done at the gym. Except for walking of course, which I love, and occasionally even do in my sleep!

I’d love to hear how you think I’ve done so far. What could I have done better? What works well for you? Do send in your tips.

That’s it for now folks! It’s your turn next. Email me your goals and access all the great benefits of a support group.

Wishing you health and wellness,


The Get Fit Challenge

October 5, 2009


The Get Fit Challenge: (As announced in Issue 4 of CLR Inspire,


There’s strength in numbers so if you’re looking to take your fitness up a notch why not join me in the Get Fit Challenge? We’re not the sort to wait for the New Year to make changes, and we are action oriented, right? The challenge takes off on October 1st and it involves taking up a form of exercise, setting weekly goals with it, and keeping these up till December 31st this year. Email me your fitness goals and challenges and I’ll set up an online group where we can encourage one another. Are you in? Email me now, before life gets in the way! 



**Please consult your medical care practitioner before embarking on new exercise programs or routines.


Well people, the Get Fit Challenge has begun! In order to lead by example, let me share with you my fitness goals for this week, 4th – 10th October 2009! They involve exercise and healthy eating, and are:

(1) To walk briskly for at least 30 minutes every day, Monday to Friday.

(2) To get my 5 fruits and veg every day of the week. I just lur-r-r-r-ve fruit ‘n veg!

(I’m already doing fine with these two.)

(3) To do 30 minutes of an aerobic exercise, besides walking, on Mon, Wed and Fri. And of course do the warming up and cooling down!

(4) To reduce my food portion size by half, for every meal I eat this week.

(5) Not to eat any sweets or chocolates, and only have 4 biscuits in any one day! Grrr!


Phew! Now that I’ve announced this to the world I have really committed myself! I spoke with a coach a while ago and she asked how far I was committed, on a scale of 0-10, to these goals.

(0 = Not committed. Won’t do it! 10 = Totally committed. Done deal!)

For the exercise goals I quipped, “100%, all for it!” For the food goals, I moaned, groaned and proffered a 50%!  “Good!” said Coach, “We can get moving with a 50% commitment. Now, what can we do to raise the commitment higher?” That was a no-brainer for me. Just thinking of how I’d look in a few months if I didn’t do something about it, was motivating enough! Not to  mention the fact that I was now feeling out of synch – cool and slick on the inside but elephantine on the outside!  So Coach got me to commit to my commitment, rather than my desired destination. Because I can do something about my commitment, right now. It’s within reach. But my goal is still afar off, presently outside my immediate sphere of influence. It’s comforting to know that there is some impact you can begin to make immediately!

A light bulb came on, and has stayed on ever since! I am now focusing on keeping up my commitment, one day at a time. And it’s working. I am now 100% committed to the food goals as well as the exercise ones. With 100% commitment I can just get up and go, no matter the weather. And my body just “gets with the programme.” It’s quite wet outside today but I’ll be doing my aerobics inside. And the school run will give me 30 minutes of brisk walking. Oh yes, we’re a Fit for Life family! We walk everywhere that’s within walking distance.

I hope this inspires you to set some fitness goals and work them this week. I’ll be back next week to tell you how it went. And hopefully some of you will get brave enough to share your goals and experiences too! Till then, stay focused on your commitment. It’s easier than looking to your desired destination.   Ciao!

Re: The Get Fit Challenge

October 5, 2009

Points to note:

j0430802zzz1.In order to avoid overwhelm I advise that people not attempt more than 3 new goals at a time. Notice, I’m already into goals (1) and (2), so my new goals are (3), (4) and (5).

2.Gauge your commitment. If it’s at zero presently, I recommend that you decide whether you really do want this goal. For yourself, not for someone else. If you do want it, what do you stand to gain by achieving it, or lose by not achieving it? If not much, then you might need to think of a more inspiring goal. We need a strong WHY to pull us through the tough times, something to look forward to, or strive away from. Without a strong WHY we are more likely to drop out along the way.

 3.If you do have a strong WHY, and really want this goal, then keep in mind what you stand to gain by committing to it. Or what you will happily be rid of at the end! As you think of your pay off, visualize the results. Conjure up the sights, sounds and smells. Imagine friends and family congratulating/admiring/envying you! Think how this achievement will also benefit others in your life. If you like, keep pictures of the things you are striving for, where you will see them every day. Look at them and see it done. With all this visualization, you should be able to work up your commitment each day. Just work it one day at a time. Hopefully, you will eventually get into flow, with 100% commitment. Then it will only be a matter of time before you achieve your goals!

4.I don’t recommend that you try to go straight from one extreme to another. E.g. from not exercising at all to jogging 5 days a week! That’s rather a drastic change, will likely hurt your body, and is setting yourself up for failure. Better to go gradually, working up to the ideal. So, from no exercise at all I could decide to walk to the shops instead of driving/taking the bus. Then, when I’m comfortable with this I could throw in one swimming session a week, or join a group of friends for a Saturday morning walk. Next I could be walking briskly for 30 minutes, one/two days a week. Get the point? And of course talk with your medical care provider before you take on any exercise or start any new routines. I’m aiming at no sweets and chocs because I’ve gradually been cutting back. And only 4 bix in any one day because I just lurv-v-v-ve them! To aim for no biscuits whatsoever would be unimaginable at this point! Slow and steady, more like it! 

 Wishing you great success,


Your coach and fitness pal,


Oma Edoja